How to become accountable to yourself
You’re reliable, capable, and always there for everyone else. But what happens when you keep showing up for others — and leave nothing for yourself?
In this episode of Higher Standards, we explore why over-responsibility develops, how it creates invisible exhaustion and imbalance in your relationships, and what it takes to start honouring your own needs with the same care you give to others.
You’ll learn why being reliable isn’t the problem — and why restoring balance starts with small, deliberate choices that reconnect you to yourself.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction: When being reliable goes too far
02:40 – Why we take on the “capable one” role
08:15 – How over-functioning creates invisible exhaustion
13:00 – The hidden cost: imbalance in relationships
17:20 – The cycle of resentment, guilt, and overgiving
22:00 – Why receiving support is essential for real connection
26:30 – The Equal Priority Framework
30:15 – Small actions you can take to restore balance
35:20 – Final reflection: You deserve the care you give so freely
More Resources:
- Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
- Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
- Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
