Self compassion that actually works
If self-criticism feels like the only way to stay motivated, this episode will shift everything you thought you knew about discipline, growth, and what it really takes to create lasting change.
In this episode, Shannon explores why self-compassion is a high-performance skill — not a soft excuse — and how it helps you stay consistent, motivated, and emotionally resilient. You’ll learn what self-compassion actually is (and isn’t), why the “be hard on yourself” strategy backfires, and how to start practicing compassion in a way that genuinely works, even if it feels unfamiliar or uncomfortable at first.
Whether you're navigating burnout, perfectionism, or that constant sense that you're not doing enough, this conversation offers the science, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you build a better relationship with yourself — and show up more powerfully in your life.
Key Takeaways:
- Why self-criticism feels productive but actually sabotages your progress
- The difference between self-compassion, self-indulgence, and self-pity
- How compassion activates different systems in the brain than criticism
- The science behind why self-compassion improves motivation and consistency
- What self-compassion looks like in real-life situations — including emotional eating
- How to start practicing self-compassion using guided reflection and imagery
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro + why this episode matters
01:30 – What self-compassion isn’t
06:50 – The real definition of self-compassion (Paul Gilbert vs. Kristin Neff)
13:45 – Self-compassion vs. self-indulgence
17:30 – What science and brain scans reveal about self-criticism vs. self-compassion
23:40 – Real-life client example: why shame never leads to lasting change
28:00 – Simple practices to build your self-compassion muscle
33:00 – Final reflections + how to take this work deeper
If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs a little more compassion today!
More Resources:
- Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
- Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
- Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
